I Need Help (its about a girl)

[JacobS]

ok, so i get invited to this girls party and ive liked her since freshman year, for those of you who dont know im now a junior. its a birthday party and i think, well no big deal noone else is going to be bringing presents so why should i? then i thought about it and i decided i should at least get her something. So my mom followed me to Target and we bought some flowers. then when i get to the party i have no balls and dont give them to her...whenever im around her i just get all nervous.
what should i do??

somethings different about her, but ive never been able to put my finger on it. shes so beautiful, it hurts to think about her. i think i might...ya no...love her

any help is appreciated

[whitecougar]

man same stuff here theres nothing really to do other then try to keep it togother

[Sham]

Ass to Mouth, all shyness out the door!

[Lunar Limelight]

Awww cute. Try hanging out with her, like go to a fair or something. So it's just you and her so you two can talk without a bunch of crazy party people. No girl can turn down flowers, or stuffed animals...or car parts. Okay that might just be me. But every girl loves flowers! Ask Karin she'll agree.

[BigBalledOX]

****, I can't believe I missed this! I gotta run to work, but I'll be back and we'll chat some more Little J. Don't worry, we'll getcha covered.

[LadyX]

You should've given her the flowers!! She would've loved that. Especially if nobody else brought anything. You should bring them to her now.. (or new ones) and explain how you wanted to before, but were chicken... then ask her to go for a coffe or ice cream or something!

[BigBalledOX]

We need more information. Jacob, is she dating anyone or whatever? Have you ever taken her out on a date? If so, how did it go?

Over the long run, I think you did better not giving her the flowers. Flowers are a great gift to give a girl . . . if you're already seeing her.

[JacobS]

she not seeing anyone, and ive never been on a date with her

im just not that great when it comes to girls...

[BigBalledOX]

Originally Posted by JacobS

she not seeing anyone, and ive never been on a date with her

im just not that great when it comes to girls...

Bull**** kid. You can be as good or bad with women as you wanna be.

You strike me as a sweet kid, and that's good. But you gotta find a little inner asshole.

Here's the thing . . . you're too worried about trying to impress this girl. You're so worried about ****ing up, saying the wrong thing, or not being up to "her standards" that you become paralyzed.

This girl probably has guys fawning all over her. You said she's not seeing anyone, so guess what? All the guys, fawning all over her, their **** ain't workin. So you gotta be the guy who's different.

First and foremost, you gotta talk to her. I don't care what it takes, you gotta figure out a way to make yourself believe this - there's no one in the world she wants more than you. She may not know that just yet, but when you start believing it, before too long she'll be believing it too.

Once you really believe that, once you've got a little bit of attitude, thats when you strike. Because once you believe she wouldn't want anyone but you, you've got complete control of the situation.

Be flirty. Tease. Joke with. Be a touch naughty, but always make sure its with a wink and a smile (not necessarily literally). Be a little cocky. Girls love cocky. Don't be arrogant, mind you. You don't wanna come off as a total prick. But you wanna come off as someone who is supremely confident in himself.

However, the best piece of advice I can give you is this . . . be cool. You obviously like this girl a LOT. And thats great. But she can't know just how much you like her, right off the bat. Thats the single worst thing you can do. I know its dumb, but trust me on this one.

Do you still have those flowers for her? This is what I would do . . . find a place where you KNOW she will find them. Leave them on her front doorstep, something like that. Don't give them to a friend to give to her, because that's ****in weak sauce. But somehow, find a way to get them to her. With the flowers, send a note that reads something like "Had a great time at your birthday party. We should hang out some time, just you and me. Call me and we'll set it up. Later! - Jacob" and give her your phone number if she doesn't already have it. If she does, skip the number.

Then . . . and here's the hard part . . . wait.

She WILL call you. It won't be nearly soon enough, but it WILL happen. The key in all this is how you word certain things. You tell her you had fun last time you were around her. Then, you don't ask if she wants to hang out, you TELL her she wants to hang out with you. Next, you don't ASK her to call, you TELL her to call. You never for a second let on that you're dying for a chance to kick it with her.

If you see her and she hasn't called you yet, don't sweat, don't ask if she got the flowers, don't get nervous. At all times, BE COOL. Act like you don't care if she calls you or not. Like I said before, don't let on how much you dig on her.

Go, put these lessons to practice, and report back with the results.

Oh, and one last thing man . . . just in case things don't go the way you want . . . there's MILLIONS of beautiful women out there, but not all of them are worth your time . . . most of them just cheat on you.

[MercCoug99]

sh*t ryan. thats some good advise. i think im gonna bare this info in mind if my current girlfriend doesnt work out. haha!!!