More of a rant but need advice - Page 2

CSVT_2004 · 06-12-2008, 09:57 AM

1. Separate friend from baggage

a. If baggage insists on going, tell her someone has to watch the baby..
b. Says it's guys night out....
c. Tell her she can't come because she'll scare the other women away....
d. Kidnap your friend...

2. Take friend to bar and have a beer together

a. I hope he likes alcohol, much easier to get someone to talk
b. If you get him tipsy enough maybe he'll open up more and bond some

3. Talk to your friend and get things out in the open

a. Maybe he hates her too and just doesn't know how to get rid of her...
b. Make him go get a pregnancy test to see if that Beotch is really pregnant or not...

4. Hopefully you can get your friendship back and not lose your friend

a. Don't let this baggage destroy your friendship, if you try everything to get your friend back you'll never have any regrets, don't try and it will bother you for the rest of your life...

5. You and refreshed friendship can now plan how to move the baggage back to where it came from.

a. UHAUL comes to mind....
b. FEDEX
c. UPS
d. American Airlines

Now...

and go fix your friendship before that stupid chick starts more crap!!!!!!!!!!!!

frenchblueC2 · 06-12-2008, 02:50 PM

It sucks to see a friend blindly throw his life away over a stupid girl. It's one of the most helpless feelings you could have as a friend.
You want the best for your friends, but you don't know how to approach them without hurting their feelings and making the situation worse, or possibly ruining the friendship.
I have been in your shoes!!

You may want to sit down with him and discuss that you've noticed a change with him. There may be more going on than you know. Maybe there's something going on between him and his parents that's completely unrelated to the girl.
Just see if he'll tell you what's bugging him so much lately and causing him to seemingly lash out so badly at everyone around him.
Maybe he's just under a bunch of stress - it could be a combination of many factors at once and the only way he knows how to deal with the stress is to be a jerk.
Just do your best not to immediately start pointing fingers at his g/f as the reason for his problems. You'll only infuriate him more.

bodkins_adam01 · 06-13-2008, 09:13 AM

well I have an update. I went to his house last night cause my laptop was supposedly on the fritz well while he was fixing it his girl came out and said something smart to me along the lines of can't fix your own problem. And I took the mature side and told her that her comments were not wanted nor needed and that we were busy and to go find something to do. Evidently she has never been put in her place cause she dropped her jaw and walked away. We proceeded to fix my imaginary problem and after about an hour I said lets take a break and have a beer. We went out on the deck and talked about everything and he filled me in on some stuff that has been going on and for the most part it didn't begin to happen until this girl came down. Obviously i stated that if the baby was what was holding him back from kicking her ass to the curb to call my fiance and talk to her. She is a MD and deals with this alot. I also told him to go to wal mart or walgreens and get a pregnancy test and make her take it I even offered to get it for him to save face. If she argued then case closed grab her **** throw it out th e door and have a nice life so today he is supposed to be going and getting a test. we'll see what happens. As far as her first child. I managed to get her to spill her last name and am waiting for the results on a background check I ran on her last night to see what she is running from. They should be in tonight a buddy of mine does it all the time and told me it takes about 24 hours. we'll see

thousandlegs · 06-13-2008, 09:22 AM

Nice detective work. I hope that it works out for you guys...'specially him. I've seen folks throw their lives away over chicks and stupid decisions. Eventually it turns around but by then there has usually been some irreversible damage.

CSVT_2004 · 06-13-2008, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by bodkins_adam01

well I have an update. I went to his house last night cause my laptop was supposedly on the fritz well while he was fixing it his girl came out and said something smart to me along the lines of can't fix your own problem. And I took the mature side and told her that her comments were not wanted nor needed and that we were busy and to go find something to do. Evidently she has never been put in her place cause she dropped her jaw and walked away. We proceeded to fix my imaginary problem and after about an hour I said lets take a break and have a beer. We went out on the deck and talked about everything and he filled me in on some stuff that has been going on and for the most part it didn't begin to happen until this girl came down. Obviously i stated that if the baby was what was holding him back from kicking her ass to the curb to call my fiance and talk to her. She is a MD and deals with this alot. I also told him to go to wal mart or walgreens and get a pregnancy test and make her take it I even offered to get it for him to save face. If she argued then case closed grab her **** throw it out th e door and have a nice life so today he is supposed to be going and getting a test. we'll see what happens. As far as her first child. I managed to get her to spill her last name and am waiting for the results on a background check I ran on her last night to see what she is running from. They should be in tonight a buddy of mine does it all the time and told me it takes about 24 hours. we'll see

Hell YEAH MAN!!!! Glad to here you and your buddy finally got to talk some and start getting a feel for what is going on. Remind me to never make enemies with you..... running background checks and all..

Watch you'll find out that she's had 4 different husbands and is wanted in 2 states...

frenchblueC2 · 06-13-2008, 09:31 AM

Good to see the discussion with him went well.

bodkins_adam01 · 06-13-2008, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by CSVT_2004

Hell YEAH MAN!!!! Glad to here you and your buddy finally got to talk some and start getting a feel for what is going on. Remind me to never make enemies with you..... running background checks and all..

Watch you'll find out that she's had 4 different husbands and is wanted in 2 states...

LOL yeah I can be pretty vindictive at times

CSVT_2004 · 06-13-2008, 11:52 AM

I think some ricer just took down my plates.... a 2 lane turned into a 1 lane and then he backed off so I scooted up ahead of him and he started beeping at me... little high schooler, then I saw him on his cell and it looked like he was squinting trying to read the back of my car... freaking no exhaust on his little rice bag... but I got his plates too

bodkins_adam01 · 06-16-2008, 05:04 AM

ok well just a little update. I got the background info back on her and it is for the most part clean. Alot of bill collectors after her, the kid is hers, and she does live with her parents. Now for the good ****. I got in contact with her babies daddy ( who was supposedly in jail for raping her.) (gotta love myspace) I talked to him for about an hour. Found out he is actually a pretty cool guy. He loves his son and had been trying to get custody from her since the day that the kid was born. Because she has neglected the kid since day one. After she got out of the hospital she left for almost a week with her friends to meet some guy there. Evidently the girl is a ****. The reason her and the babies daddy aren't together is because she ran him and his parents into debt so deep that his dad had to sell his boat and almost had to file bankruptcy. Now on the deal with my friend. He didn't go get a pregnancy test like he said he was. My bday was friday and my girl had a big get together at one of the local bars here for me. About an hour into and only one of my friends showing up she went and called him. He said that his girl didn't want to come so he wasn't coming. It didn't piss me off but it hurt my feelings really bad that someone I trust with my life and consider my little brother didn't come to see me or call me on my birthday because of is girl. So I pretty much drank all night after that. And it is three days later and no word from him. So basically it comes down to I guess I have lost a friend. But there will be more I am still young. People make stupid descisions every day. Not worth crying over spilt milk. Also I might be moving to NC or SC but I will start another thread with that.

GuidoThePenguin · 06-16-2008, 06:45 AM

Your not the first guy who lost a very close friend because of some jerry springer booty.

nor will you be the last.

In the end, I'm glad I seperated myself from that drama, life has been good every sence.

06-12-2008, 09:57 AM	#11 (permalink)
CSVT_2004 NECO Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 28	Plan# 22: Lose the baggage! 1. Separate friend from baggage a. If baggage insists on going, tell her someone has to watch the baby.. b. Says it's guys night out.... c. Tell her she can't come because she'll scare the other women away.... d. Kidnap your friend... 2. Take friend to bar and have a beer together a. I hope he likes alcohol, much easier to get someone to talk b. If you get him tipsy enough maybe he'll open up more and bond some 3. Talk to your friend and get things out in the open a. Maybe he hates her too and just doesn't know how to get rid of her... b. Make him go get a pregnancy test to see if that Beotch is really pregnant or not... 4. Hopefully you can get your friendship back and not lose your friend a. Don't let this baggage destroy your friendship, if you try everything to get your friend back you'll never have any regrets, don't try and it will bother you for the rest of your life... 5. You and refreshed friendship can now plan how to move the baggage back to where it came from. a. UHAUL comes to mind.... b. FEDEX c. UPS d. American Airlines Now... and go fix your friendship before that stupid chick starts more crap!!!!!!!!!!!! __________________ 1999 CSVT #1745 of 2760 T-Green/P-Tan DD Viper 791XV & Res Del 1999 CSVT #1831 of 2760 T-Green/P-Tan Project Car Geek Squad Autotech [MECP Cert] Last edited by CSVT_2004; 06-12-2008 at 10:06 AM.

06-12-2008, 02:50 PM	#12 (permalink)
frenchblueC2 Cockblocking since 2004 Join Date: May 2001 Location: Manchester, NH Posts: 3,235	Re: More of a rant but need advice It sucks to see a friend blindly throw his life away over a stupid girl. It's one of the most helpless feelings you could have as a friend. You want the best for your friends, but you don't know how to approach them without hurting their feelings and making the situation worse, or possibly ruining the friendship. I have been in your shoes!! You may want to sit down with him and discuss that you've noticed a change with him. There may be more going on than you know. Maybe there's something going on between him and his parents that's completely unrelated to the girl. Just see if he'll tell you what's bugging him so much lately and causing him to seemingly lash out so badly at everyone around him. Maybe he's just under a bunch of stress - it could be a combination of many factors at once and the only way he knows how to deal with the stress is to be a jerk. Just do your best not to immediately start pointing fingers at his g/f as the reason for his problems. You'll only infuriate him more. __________________ Kim 2001 Cougar C2 2007 Mazdaspeed6 GT

06-13-2008, 09:13 AM	#13 (permalink)
bodkins_adam01 NECO Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Jackson TN Posts: 139	Re: More of a rant but need advice well I have an update. I went to his house last night cause my laptop was supposedly on the fritz well while he was fixing it his girl came out and said something smart to me along the lines of can't fix your own problem. And I took the mature side and told her that her comments were not wanted nor needed and that we were busy and to go find something to do. Evidently she has never been put in her place cause she dropped her jaw and walked away. We proceeded to fix my imaginary problem and after about an hour I said lets take a break and have a beer. We went out on the deck and talked about everything and he filled me in on some stuff that has been going on and for the most part it didn't begin to happen until this girl came down. Obviously i stated that if the baby was what was holding him back from kicking her ass to the curb to call my fiance and talk to her. She is a MD and deals with this alot. I also told him to go to wal mart or walgreens and get a pregnancy test and make her take it I even offered to get it for him to save face. If she argued then case closed grab her **** throw it out th e door and have a nice life so today he is supposed to be going and getting a test. we'll see what happens. As far as her first child. I managed to get her to spill her last name and am waiting for the results on a background check I ran on her last night to see what she is running from. They should be in tonight a buddy of mine does it all the time and told me it takes about 24 hours. we'll see __________________ Those who choose to stand in the back of the crowd will never be remembered but those who courageously stand out away from the crowd will never be forgotten.[SIGPIC]

06-13-2008, 09:22 AM	#14 (permalink)
thousandlegs USER Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Pensacola, FL Posts: 1,051	Re: More of a rant but need advice Nice detective work. I hope that it works out for you guys...'specially him. I've seen folks throw their lives away over chicks and stupid decisions. Eventually it turns around but by then there has usually been some irreversible damage. __________________ 1999 Cougar 2.5L MTX 2003 Mountaineer 4.0L ATX mymyspace

06-13-2008, 09:31 AM	#16 (permalink)
frenchblueC2 Cockblocking since 2004 Join Date: May 2001 Location: Manchester, NH Posts: 3,235	Re: More of a rant but need advice Good to see the discussion with him went well. __________________ Kim 2001 Cougar C2 2007 Mazdaspeed6 GT

06-13-2008, 11:52 AM	#18 (permalink)
CSVT_2004 NECO Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 28	Re: More of a rant but need advice I think some ricer just took down my plates.... a 2 lane turned into a 1 lane and then he backed off so I scooted up ahead of him and he started beeping at me... little high schooler, then I saw him on his cell and it looked like he was squinting trying to read the back of my car... freaking no exhaust on his little rice bag... but I got his plates too __________________ 1999 CSVT #1745 of 2760 T-Green/P-Tan DD Viper 791XV & Res Del 1999 CSVT #1831 of 2760 T-Green/P-Tan Project Car Geek Squad Autotech [MECP Cert]

06-16-2008, 05:04 AM	#19 (permalink)
bodkins_adam01 NECO Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Jackson TN Posts: 139	Re: More of a rant but need advice ok well just a little update. I got the background info back on her and it is for the most part clean. Alot of bill collectors after her, the kid is hers, and she does live with her parents. Now for the good **. I got in contact with her babies daddy ( who was supposedly in jail for raping her.) (gotta love myspace) I talked to him for about an hour. Found out he is actually a pretty cool guy. He loves his son and had been trying to get custody from her since the day that the kid was born. Because she has neglected the kid since day one. After she got out of the hospital she left for almost a week with her friends to meet some guy there. Evidently the girl is a **. The reason her and the babies daddy aren't together is because she ran him and his parents into debt so deep that his dad had to sell his boat and almost had to file bankruptcy. Now on the deal with my friend. He didn't go get a pregnancy test like he said he was. My bday was friday and my girl had a big get together at one of the local bars here for me. About an hour into and only one of my friends showing up she went and called him. He said that his girl didn't want to come so he wasn't coming. It didn't piss me off but it hurt my feelings really bad that someone I trust with my life and consider my little brother didn't come to see me or call me on my birthday because of is girl. So I pretty much drank all night after that. And it is three days later and no word from him. So basically it comes down to I guess I have lost a friend. But there will be more I am still young. People make stupid descisions every day. Not worth crying over spilt milk. Also I might be moving to NC or SC but I will start another thread with that. __________________ Those who choose to stand in the back of the crowd will never be remembered but those who courageously stand out away from the crowd will never be forgotten.[SIGPIC]

06-16-2008, 06:45 AM	#20 (permalink)
GuidoThePenguin NECO Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: p'cola FL Posts: 1,751	Re: More of a rant but need advice Your not the first guy who lost a very close friend because of some jerry springer booty. nor will you be the last. In the end, I'm glad I seperated myself from that drama, life has been good every sence. __________________ Old car: 00 Cougar V6 (more mods than I could count) New car: 05 Mustang GT (more mods than my bank can handle)

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