WTF!!!???

[Catwoman3700]

Alright , what is the deal with ex boyfriends getting all crazy?!
:drama:
The guy I dated A FREAKIN YEAR AGO is telling everyone I'm this huge ****...and he comes around my house and tries to be friends with me...talks to my dad all the time about his Vette...dating my (now ex-)best friend who lives in TEXAS.

What to do?! :banghead:
I feel like walking straight up to him and giving that piece of sh!t a black eye. :mad:
The Heids is not a hoe-bag...

[J-Man]

guys are immature when it comes to ex girlfriends.

give him a swift kick to the groin and you'll feel better

[putergeek]

Kick him in the left nut. Then kick him in the right nuts and tell him it's from me :tongue:
I can't see him calling you a hoe-bag, but I guess I haven't talked to him in a while now. :shrug:

[Catwoman3700]

Yea I really think I should show up at his work and punch him in the face.
Alan, he's really turned in to a jerk-face.
Seriously, who does this sh!t?? Maybe he needs his wheels stolen... :rofl:

[NascarSigEp]

Guys do stupid sh!t sometimes. I'll admit it. I say things without thinking them through, but never to say anything that is as demeaning as what he said. It's time to split those uprights and kick a field goal.

[putergeek]

WHAT!?!?!?! I can say for myself that I've never said or done anything stupid before....



:cover:

[Catwoman3700]

Seriously what should I do??
I have this whole fantasy of showing up at his work where he thinks he's King Sh!t and punching him in the face, yelling at him for being a stupid, selfish, childish prick bastard and peeling out of the damn place...
But I just remembered I can't peel out :(
The kicker is that I told my "friend" about it (the one he's screwing...er..."dating") and she didn't defend me at all! She's just like "Well that's between you and him...I don't want to get in the middle of it" What a B!!!!!!!!!

[StangKiller]

First I didn't want to comment on this, but I will out of stupidity.

1) Never involve a third party that knows both people in a situation like this. It just causes issues and most of the time you lose friends over it.

2) Has any man really lived up to a woman's expectations (except some husbands or fathers). We are just the same as women, we have faults.

3) If it is not true, than let it slide. I have noticed in my life when someone is offended by a comment, the more offended they are the more true it is. (Not that I am saying that is the situation now, but that is what I have experienced most of the time in the past)

4) Don't do anything rash, you will regret it in the end. Assaulting him will only get you into alot of trouble.

Just let it go and move on. I thought you were moving in a few months anyways.

[Catwoman3700]

Mike, that comment was really distasteful. How dare you bring that up that "Oh, he's a guy and so I'm on his side...he's probably right". The reason I'm offended is because I'm not a **** like he says I am. But I guess you couldn't read between the lines. Whatever. I guess you really did respond to this post out of stupidity.
I don't want to start trouble with you either, but I was just venting and asking who I thought were my friends for a bit of advice. You didn't need to put it in such terms.

[Giggle]

Heidi, your ex is a jerk and needs to grow up. I know that you are upset and the first thing is to try to relax. And I know that it is hard to relax b/c all you want to do is grab that SOB and kick the living crap out of him. Guys are guys, some just don't have enough brain cells upstairs. Lord knows how they can get their pants on in the morning. I mean all they think about is stupid crap to tick us off. First they are super nice to us then when you are not expecting it they shovel your face into mud. They are just unhappy pieces of crap that make themselves look and feel better by hurting a girl making her upset and cry in front of ppl.
I mean come on where in the hell are the good guys out there. I mean are looks everything with you guys? I mean give me a flipping break just b/c we have a voice and say what is on our minds us girls are hoes. Oh it is so easy for you pig headed men to call us names and make us cry. What about all the million of times we sit on the phone listening to your whines about your car and how this went wrong and how this isn't going right. Then you have the balls to say crap about us. THAT is total bull crap.
What just b/c a girl is a size 12/14 and is not drop dead hot then you can turn and act like a back of a donkeys butt to me. Oh you can just go to H e double hockey sticks mister hamster. If I knew how to drop kick someone I so would of did it that night in the parking lot you stupid pile of cow crap. OH and I forgot that you men don't like being called A$$hats well that is too bad YOU were being one. So DON'T call us ****s. Sorry my personal venting issues......

Back to Heidi's problem.

Heidi , I would nicely tell the ex that it is really kinda really creepy that he comes over to the house and that he wanted to be apart from you b/c he went behind your back with your so called friend. That was so not nice of her. See ppl those type of girls give us good girls a bad name. He has issues and needs to stay the hell away from you. You are better then that and to have that pile of garbage hanging around you is not cool and it smells bad also. And if that doesn't help then talk to your dad ( who is a great dad with a cool vette). I think the ex is trying to weasel he way into your life again.

Just be patient and the MR Right will come along and everything will be good. You are so sweet and smart and so drop dead gorgeous that I am sure that Prince charming will come your way. I am here for you O-kay us girl have to stick together....

[duratecpower]

Heidi, Don't do anything that will get you into trouble, He's not worth it.

[COOGAH]

damn giggle, you need to get you some.....

[Crispy]

Heids... I think Mike's advice is the best.. just walk away and turn the other cheek.. if he really is a loser he's not worth all the stress its giving you.. Be the bigger person and just remove yourself from his life - ignore him and when your in the company of your other friend talk about other things.. making a friend choose sides is sorta selfish.. I sorta understand where she's coming from with the "I don't want to get in the middle - thats between you two"..

just walk away - ditch the zero and get with the hero.

[StangKiller]

Heidi, I am sorry if you took what I had to say the wrong way, but I was not taking sides. If you knew me well enough you would know that I do not take sides, even when I know someone. It is not worth the stress that comes along with that. That is why I am not political and what not. It does not fit into my world of things that I need to worry about. My world consists of my wife and that is about it. I fit in my car and work where I can and guilt seems to squeeze in some other things for certain people.

As for what Chris said, that is all I really what to make a point of. No one is ever worth it. If my wife ever did something that made me want to hit her; I would hit the road and not think twice about it. Jail and other such problems are not worth the hassle that they may not seem to you now.

If you need some help with the problems you have I am here. If he does something that hurts you physically I will be the first one in line to bury him somewhere, but until that happens you need to let the situation slide and move on. He hasn't and that is just his problem.

That again is another .02.

[Catwoman3700]

Thanks peeps...
As for my so-called friend, screw her. Our friendship isn't worth all of this crap. If she won't even stand up for me and set things straight then I can't really call her a friend, can I? Regardless if she wanted to get in the middle or not, she put herself in the middle when she started dating my ex.
As for him, no, I'm not going to slash his tires or anything. I'm not a psycho ex...I just wanted some advice on how I'm going to handle this. Should I at least confront him about it? I want him to stay away from me and my family...

[Giggle]

I would and if he doesn't get it then walk away. He will never get it then if he doesn't get it now.

[NascarSigEp]

Wow... i don't even know what to say. All I can do is give you personal experiences or my opinion. I can't nor will I tell you what to do.

The only thing I would do is tell him (calmly) you dissagree with what he did and it hurt you. Then walk away and move on.

I try to take criticism the best I can. I have my own issues so I am no better than anyone else.

My .02.