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Originally Posted by JacobS
she not seeing anyone, and ive never been on a date with her
im just not that great when it comes to girls...
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Bull**** kid. You can be as good or bad with women as you wanna be.
You strike me as a sweet kid, and that's good. But you gotta find a little inner asshole.
Here's the thing . . . you're too worried about trying to impress this girl. You're so worried about ****ing up, saying the wrong thing, or not being up to "her standards" that you become paralyzed.
This girl probably has guys fawning all over her. You said she's not seeing anyone, so guess what? All the guys, fawning all over her, their **** ain't workin. So you gotta be the guy who's different.
First and foremost, you gotta talk to her. I don't care what it takes, you gotta figure out a way to make yourself believe this - there's no one in the world she wants more than you. She may not know that just yet, but when you start believing it, before too long she'll be believing it too.
Once you really believe that, once you've got a little bit of attitude, thats when you strike. Because once you believe she wouldn't want anyone but you, you've got complete control of the situation.
Be flirty. Tease. Joke with. Be a touch naughty, but always make sure its with a wink and a smile (not necessarily literally). Be a little cocky. Girls love cocky. Don't be arrogant, mind you. You don't wanna come off as a total prick. But you wanna come off as someone who is supremely confident in himself.
However, the best piece of advice I can give you is this . . . be cool. You obviously like this girl a LOT. And thats great. But she can't know just how much you like her, right off the bat. Thats the single worst thing you can do. I know its dumb, but trust me on this one.
Do you still have those flowers for her? This is what I would do . . . find a place where you KNOW she will find them. Leave them on her front doorstep, something like that. Don't give them to a friend to give to her, because that's ****in weak sauce. But somehow, find a way to get them to her. With the flowers, send a note that reads something like "Had a great time at your birthday party. We should hang out some time, just you and me. Call me and we'll set it up. Later! - Jacob" and give her your phone number if she doesn't already have it. If she does, skip the number.
Then . . . and here's the hard part . . . wait.
She WILL call you. It won't be nearly soon enough, but it WILL happen. The key in all this is how you word certain things. You tell her you had fun last time you were around her. Then, you don't ask if she wants to hang out, you TELL her she wants to hang out with you. Next, you don't ASK her to call, you TELL her to call. You never for a second let on that you're dying for a chance to kick it with her.
If you see her and she hasn't called you yet, don't sweat, don't ask if she got the flowers, don't get nervous. At all times, BE COOL. Act like you don't care if she calls you or not. Like I said before, don't let on how much you dig on her.
Go, put these lessons to practice, and report back with the results.
Oh, and one last thing man . . . just in case things don't go the way you want . . . there's MILLIONS of beautiful women out there, but not all of them are worth your time . . . most of them just cheat on you.
